Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Ordinary Secrets

If I don't tell anyone . . does it mean it didn't happen?  If I tell you . . will you think I'm crazy?

He told me that he loved me.  I wanted him and he wanted me.

So I thought.  Seems he told a lot of women the same story.

I bought it ~ hook, line, and sinker. Or sucker, I should say.

When I confronted him, he laughed.  Said he didn't do it.  Said it was just a pack of lies.

I wanted to believe him.  But I knew better than to take him at his word.

I had him followed.  To her house.

I didn't need to.  Have him followed.

She called me.  To brag.  Said it was too bad that he didn't love me the way he loved her.

I cried.  But it didn't help.  What I wanted was for him to tell me that he loved me.  That he was sorry.

And he will.  Just wait.

Friday, November 9, 2012

Expressions of My Identity

I have never quite "fit in". . although I am always trying.
I say please and thank you . . and isn't that nice, while smiling.
But what I really think usually stays inside. .
Or I should say it stays in my head. . .
And goes round and round and round.

When I try to say who I am or what I think . . I am tongue-tied.
I have practiced over and over the 15 second "sales pitch".
It sounds ridiculous.
It is not an expression of my identity.

My eyes are.
The kind of work I do is.
The way I bake coffee cake on Christmas . .
These are expressions of my identity.

You can tell who I am by asking me a question that requires the truth today
And again, the same question next week.  It will still be the truth.

Rather than creating a fictional persona who curtsies and prattles about . . . I am strong on most days, knowing what I want and what I don't want . . and yet, when my guard is down, when I am uncertain, I feel like an idiot .  .and so I hide. . .afraid of my own shadow.

I do not like the dark side of who I am (although I know she exists) . . and so I force her to be silent.
But the silence can be deafening.
It can keep me from hearing even my own inner voice.

And so I am on a mission to recover my shadow self. . to express who I really am.
However, first I must go within and find her.